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Blunders 11:01 Tue Nov 4
What's the key to long term relationships?
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After 7 years (4 and half of living together), my girlfriend and I split up at the weekend, and she's moved back to her parents. I'm 29, she's 27.
Her reasons, which I can't really argue with, are that we've drifted apart, it's not the same relationship, not in love with each other anymore and both deserve to be with people who can make us happier than we are now. And I accept that over the last 2 years or so it hasn't been right, we've kind of coexisted, settled if you like.
When we first got together it was the usual thing- we were inseparable. Like one person. But to use the old saying, slowly the spark went out.
At the minute its all quite amicable, after all we've got a house and pets to sort out. It's just so sad that something so good can fizzle out.
How DO you keep that spark going? Or does everyone end up settling and (if you're the kind of person who can) just make the best of it? My parents for example can barely stand each other, but they've been married for 50 years now so they've got to the point in life when it's easier just to co-exist.
And no, I'm not providing any links to my ex, you dirty cunts.
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Lertie Button
9:45 Thu Nov 6
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You both have to want it to work & accept that there will be a lot of tough times. It's important to be happy in each others company too, rather than always dragging in others (friends, other couples).
You were both young ( for these days) when you got together so maybe that was part of the problem.
Move on but learn from your mistakes.
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wonday myson
2:50 Thu Nov 6
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Mrs Wonday and I met when I was 17 and she 16. Got married 4 years later. Produced 2 offspring in next 4 years. I spent the next umpteen years knocking my nuts out at work and Mrs Wonday was the homemaker. We had very little time to piss each other off and if we did one or the other had to compromise. Life is full of compromises. We have both just retired and absolutely loving it and have been married 44 years - happy days. Life is a roller coaster much like supporting the happy hammers. Don't give up at the first hurdle, sort it out together.
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Spandex Sidney
2:15 Thu Nov 6
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Sex and plenty of it.*
*with other people.
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Dapablo
1:13 Thu Nov 6
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poo
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Johnson
1:12 Thu Nov 6
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Cunt
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Dapablo
1:10 Thu Nov 6
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A shed, didn't your dad tell you?!?
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mallard
12:15 Thu Nov 6
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Not getting married
I've been with my partner for 13 years, engaged for 8, despite the occasional bicker, we get on just fine
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Too Much Too Young
11:52 Thu Nov 6
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2 x half ST purchased.
nice
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CHICKEN RUN MANIAC
5:04 Thu Nov 6
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Taking steps to lower each other's self esteem is also a good one.
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CHICKEN RUN MANIAC
5:00 Thu Nov 6
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Enslaving yourselves to your own insecurities is a pretty solid tactic.
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Darlo Debs
12:11 Thu Nov 6
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lol you daft bugger
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Jasnik
12:10 Thu Nov 6
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:-)
I agree ,
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Darlo Debs
12:09 Thu Nov 6
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sorry my mistake I thought you were commenting on something I had said earlier in the thread.
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Uncle Junior
12:09 Thu Nov 6
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Remember ' a woman is only a woman ' but a good cigar is a smoke ...
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Jasnik
12:06 Thu Nov 6
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Darlo Debs 11:28 Wed Nov 5
But what you missed is you didn't actaully say something that someone could agree or disagree it was just comment.
But your happy now ! .
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Darlo Debs
12:03 Thu Nov 6
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bit harsh
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Sniper
11:57 Wed Nov 5
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Never try to understand, reason with or rationalise with a woman
That's a good start
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Darlo Debs
11:28 Wed Nov 5
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well that's good.... about time someone did X
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Jasnik
11:26 Wed Nov 5
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I agree with Darlo Debs...
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lowermarshhammer
11:26 Wed Nov 5
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playing with her fantastic tits on a regular basis still works wonders after 18 years
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lowermarshhammer
11:25 Wed Nov 5
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being as desperate as each other
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